Sanjay (29) had not spoken to his brother or sister-in-law for five years. He discovered that his brother and his own fiancé were having an affair right under his nose. His brother later married Sanjit’s fiancé and, as time passed, Sanjit longed to move on. However, he had a strong sense of justice and told himself that to forgive them would signal a message to everyone that what they did was right. He wouldn’t do that.
Forgiveness isn't about sweeping things under the carpet and pretending that the original offence was not big or important. It is about making a decision not to go on allowing the past to hurt you unreasonably in the present. Forgiveness isn't about belittling what happened.
Holding on to a sense of right and wrong is not incompatible with deciding to forgive. You are saying to yourself: "What you did was very wrong, but I am choosing not to go on damaging myself by wanting to hurt you about that."
What do you think?