We go through life recording messages and then playing them back to ourselves. We are like digital recorders on legs. Sometimes those messages are true and helpful. At other times they are neither true nor helpful. The CBT therapist works with the client to firstly identify what messages the client is listening to, and then to help the client find alternative true messages to influence his or her feelings and behaviour.
Another way of thinking of CBT counselling is to understand the people are also triangles on legs. We have three important aspects of our lives. We think, we feel, and we act. What we think influences and helps maintain how we feel. And what we think and feel influences what we do. It is important to recognise that problem thinking and problem behaviour help maintain our problem feelings. The CBT counsellor works with the client to help him or her identify and change any problem thinking and behaviour. As this happens over a period of weeks, the client begins to notice that the problem feelings begin to change too.
Clients and therapists work together, once a therapeutic alliance has been formed, to identify and understand problems in terms of the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
The approach usually focuses on difficulties in the here and now, and relies on the therapist and client developing a shared view of the individual's problem.
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